A Primer

As I’ve mentioned earlier, I’m going to post a series of articles that hopefully may be beneficial to future brides and grooms, and even perhaps their family, best-men, bridesmaids… the list can go on forever, really.

Before I kick things off, there is one thing that I feel everyone should be aware of. Some of you might know it, some might not, some may agree whilst others may disagree. You are all correct, because what I’m about to present is merely my opinion, albeit based on my various behind-the-scenes experiences.

Having a wedding is an exercise in patience and compromise.

There, I’ve said it. But what do I mean? As much as you’ve imagined or would like it to be, your wedding day is not just about you.

Parents have a certain idea or way of doing things and this is usually the first line where tension arises. And then they insist on inviting 3000 guests of which 2900 are total strangers to you.

Mummy: How can we not invite our neighbors from kampong, and also neighbors from the neighboring kampong?

You:??????????

Confused? Just ignore the kampong story and read on…☺

Then a relative sews you something really quite *orbit* and expects you to wear it for your nikah. And your mum doesn't want to offend her...

And to top it off, your would-be partner leaves all the planning and errands to you.

All the scenarios above are true, and worrying, but do not be put off and cancel your wedding! The last situation can be pretty easy to rectify if you put in some thought and effort.

Remember, it is a potentially hectic and stressful time, and you’ll need each other’s support to get through it. After all, it is the beginning of a new chapter in your lives.


Next Article: The Masterplan